Answer: You may want to visit your local school to show your child how students behave in a classroom setting. Discuss with him why teachers have rules and how important it is to allow everyone to have a chance to participate.

Practice this by going to your local library's story hour. Here your child will learn that there is a time to be quiet and listen, and a time to participate in the conversation. You may wish to have family time discussions. Here again your child will discover how to pay attention to what others have to say, in addition to being given a chance to be heard.

By practicing the art of taking turns prior to the start of school, you will give your child a head start on learning cooperation, and the art of listening and communicating. We must remember sometimes actions speak louder than words and it is not what we tell our children but the way in which we set an example. Remember also to praise your child: "I am so proud of the way you listened to the story just now."

Dr. Ruth Jacoby has been involved in education for more than 30 years as an educator, principal and currently as an educational consultant in Florida. She is the co-author of the School Talk! Success Series.

Advice from our experts is not a substitute for medical or other professional advice and services from a qualified health-care provider familiar with your unique situation. We recommend consulting a qualified professional if you have concerns about your child's medical or emotional condition.

July 2005